Fix DROP {DATABASE,TABLESPACE} on Windows.

Fix DROP {DATABASE,TABLESPACE} on Windows.

Previously, it was possible for DROP DATABASE, DROP TABLESPACE and ALTER
DATABASE SET TABLESPACE to fail because other backends still had file
handles open for dropped tables.  Windows won't allow a directory
containing unlinked-but-still-open files to be unlinked.  Tackle this
problem by forcing all backends to close all smgr fds.  No change for
Unix systems, which don't suffer from the problem, but the new code path
can be tested by Unix-based developers by defining
USE_BARRIER_SMGRRELEASE explicitly.

It's possible that PROCSIGNAL_BARRIER_SMGRRELEASE will have more
bug-fixing applications soon (under discussion).  Note that this is the
first user of the ProcSignalBarrier mechanism from commit 16a4e4aec.  It
could in principle be back-ed as far as 14, but since field
complaints are rare and ProcSignalBarrier hasn't been battle-tested,
that seems like a bad idea.  Fix in master only, where these failures
have started to show up in automated testing due to new tests.

Suggested-by: Andres Freund <[email protected]>
Reviewed-by: Andres Freund <[email protected]>
Reviewed-by: Daniel Gustafsson <[email protected]>
Reviewed-by: Robert Haas <[email protected]>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/CA+hUKGLdemy2gBm80kz20GTe6hNVwoErE8KwcJk6-U56oStjtg@mail.gmail.com